Z-A challenge in 26 days: November 15th: N as in Name!

A very old and repetitive custom in India and most of the world, girl has to take her husband's NAME after she gets married. I am not very much in favor of this tradition, custom or a mere freedom-attacking ritual. The first step into your marriage and you are compelled to do something you might not necessarily like.

I don't know how many girls agree but i strongly vote against this tradition. My name is my identity. World has known me by that name for years. Getting married doesn't mean you belong to a new world. Will the guy take his wives name and live by that for years? No. That wouldn't be fair,would it be?

A lot of Indian girls change both, their first and last names. So when i see a friend's request on facebook from a childhood friend, i simply ignore it. Why? Well i don't know who this XYZ is. Doesn't it scare you, being a non existing personality for people who have known you for years.

Parents give birth to a girl child, name her with all possible love in this world and she is asked to change it as soon as she ties a knot. So unfair.

I however am lucky when it comes to this. Mandar has never ever asked me to take his family name and dissolve my identity into his. So, i still remain Shalmalee Vaidya on my 26th birthday today, on the 15th November of 2010 :)